4 thoughts on “Survival By Subtype

  1. I’ve known myself as an sp/so for awhile now, but this crisis has really brought it out in me. My initial thought was about food / resources / job security (will this negatively impact my business?) followed by the general welfare of my family members, friends, neighbors, and clients along the same vein (about their money, food, physical safety, etc).

    1. I’m an Sp as well! Hello from the interweb😉 I’m finding the Sp useful for big stuff like having gut instincts about resources, in the smaller day-to-day, there is a lot of catching it and telling it to calm down, pauses, breathing, asking my body what it needs. We’re all doing our best! With love -Melissa

  2. As a male sexual 4 (5’9” with a slight narrow build) I have never been the masculine type. Growing up I was always emotional and thoughtful. I had more deep relationships with girls (platonic) than I had with boys. For sure my sexual 4 looked very feminine and that made me an outcast. Growing up I worked physical construction jobs which ended up giving me a very physically fit and ripped body – all of a sudden I was able to out compete all the guys I knew growing up. So the competitive part of 4 really shows through in me. As my life goes on I am growing more comfortable with my nature; working now as a professional – I stopped being intimidated by other guys concerning how I represent myself; finding the Enneagram encouraged more self-acceptance.

    1. I find the gendered descriptions in a lot of our language disadvantages so much in our lives. Your build was your build and still is, whether more slender or more muscular, your emotional connection with others was neither masculine or feminine, it just was! I’m so glad the Enneagram is giving you language to make space for the complex, unique person that is you! Sure, it’s totally normal to identify with a gender, and yet you have never been more or less of a male because of your personality or Type. Yay for you being you!!

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