“Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence.” — Robert K. Cooper. Ph.D.
“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both.” — David Caruso
Emotions matter. It seems so simple and yet, how many of us disregard our emotions? We stuff them inside, ignore them, and talk ourselves out of feeling everything that makes us uncomfortable. This tamping down of our emotional life comes at a cost: to our relationship with ourselves (self-love), our relationships with others, and it can adversely affect our physical and mental health. Emotions are neutral and they are informational. They point to what’s really going on; what areas in our life need love and attention.
Below is the emotional flux of each Enneagram Type as they move through the various stages of health, autopilot, and stress. None of these words are good or bad; they’re simply descriptive, and should be used like we’re all love detectives, investigating the emotional landscape in order to know more and feel it all.
The Emotional Flux of a Type One:
Stressed 4 – envious, depressed, resentful
Average 1 – Morally-minded, blunt, strict
Health 7 – Expansive, optimistic, spontaneous
The Emotional Flux of a Type Two:
Stressed 8 – Hostile, authoritative, shamed
Average 2 – Ingratiating, creative, unaware
Health 4 – Open, secure, expressive
The Emotional Flux of a Type Three:
Stressed 9 – raging, numbed, accusatory
Average 3 – insincere, charming, boundless
Health 6 – altruistic, courageous, devoted
The Emotional Flux of a Type Four:
Stressed 2 – resentful, needy, worthless
Average 4 – entitled, yearning, self-effacing
Health 1 – prolific, spacious, feeling geniuses
The Emotional Flux of a Type Five:
Stressed 7 – Anxious, manic, self-loathing
Average 5 – Curious, distant, insecure
Heath 8 – Energized, empowered, centered
The Emotional Flux of a Type Six:
Stressed 3 – frantic, deceptive, driven
Average 6 – alert, doubting, warm
Health 9 – intuitive, relaxed, trusting
The Emotional Flux of a Type Seven:
Stressed 1 – Agitated, critical, picky
Average 7 – joyful, avoidant, magnetic
Health 5 – Present, awe-filled, controlled
Emotional Flux of a Type Eight:
Stressed 5 – isolated, calculating, negligent
Average 8 – provocative, power-hungry, excessive
Health 2 – tender, attentive, intuitive
The Emotional Flux of a Type Nine:
Stressed 6 – worried, pessimistic, reactive
Average 9 – apathetic, serene, accommodating
Health – passionate, self-loving, driven
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